Prayers for his self-control
Thank you, Lord, that the Word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the dividing of soul and spirit, and of joints and marrow, and discerns the thoughts and intents of the heart (Hebrews 4:12). May Your Word pierce my husband and may he hide Your words in his heart that he might not sin against you, Lord (Psalm 119:11).
You have said in Your Word, that one who is ruled by the Spirit is better than one who can take a city and one who does not have rule over his own Spirit is like a city that is broken down and without a wall (Proverbs 16:32; 25:28) Help my husband to be ruled by the Spirit, Lord, walking in Your Spirit daily, moment by moment; build my husband’s walls to impenetrable strength and ever increasing; for God has not given my husband a spirit of timidity, but of power and love and discipline (2 Timothy 1:7). Increase in him the fruit of the Spirit that is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22). As he comes to know Your will and Your ways more each day, add to that knowledge, perseverance so that he will keep doing what is good and right, so that he will become effective and productive in his faith (2 Peter 1:5-8).
I pray my husband lives by the Spirit, is led by the Spirit and not according to the flesh, laying aside his old self, which is being corrupted in accordance with the lusts of deceit and lack of self-control, but putting to death the deeds of the body so that he might live (Romans 8:13; Ephesians 4:22). And, I pray that my husband does not let sin reign over him, nor obey its lusts, and that he is not an instrument of unrighteousness but that he is dead to sin, but alive to the righteousness of God (Romans 6:12-13).
I pray God that You would give my husband an athlete’s mentality, one who exercises self-control in all things as he trains for the race You have set before him and help him, Lord, to run in such a way that he is disciplined, keeping his body under control, so that he is not disqualified, but may finish the race for the eternal prize and You are glorified (1 Corinthians 9:24-27).
Father God, I pray my husband would be a workman who is worthy of that which You have called him to do. Remove any traits that are overbearing or quick tempered; may he not give in to drunkenness, violence, or pursue dishonest gain; rejecting ungodliness and worldly passions, but instead, I pray he is hospitable; one who loves what is good and upright, holy and self-controlled, temperate, worthy of respect, holding firm to Your trustworthy ways and awaiting his blessed hope (Titus 1:7-9; Titus 2: 2, 11-12).
Lord, our enemy, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour (2 Peter 5:8). Make my husband strong, spiritually awake, alert and self-controlled, standing firm, and steadfast in faith and love as a breastplate, and the hope of salvation as a helmet, so that he may be able to resist the devil’s evil schemes (2 Peter 5: 9-11; 1 Thessalonians 5:6-8).
I pray God my husband has a love for You instead of the world or the things in the world because all that is in the world —the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes, and the pride of life—is not from the Father but is from the world. Help him Lord to live each day with awareness that the world is passing away with all its desires, but whoever does the will of God will live forever (I John 2:15-17).
I pray my husband is a wise man with a wise heart who instructs his own mouth and persuades his own lips, and guards his mouth and his tongue, and holds his temper in check rather than be a fool who always loses control and always loses his temper and thus, guards his soul from trouble (Proverbs 29:11; Proverbs 16:23; Proverbs 21:23).
And Lord, You say that it is not You that tempts my husband because You cannot be tempted by evil. I pray my husband is not tempted nor drawn away by his own lust, nor that he be enticed by his own evil desires because it is this that leads to sin and death. Rather Lord, give my husband strength to flee from lusts and temptations and to run toward righteousness straight into Your arms (James 1:13-15). I pray Your Word of truth over my husband. Amen.